Yes, I shouted a lot, But I had to get my husband out of bed to get him to do anything. Then he left me, and I was a single parent, responsible for my child. Imagine what my nerves were like. Yes, I did scold Jennifer.
This has been extremely painful for me, You spend all this time raising a child, with a lot of good intentions, and you feel you have failed. It makes you feel very ashamed.
I do not accept this blame-the-parents theory. But I do see that a mother and a daughter have to learn to have a different relationship, a relationship between mature women.
So I lost my temper. I'm sorry. I don't do it anymore, I've overcome that- I have. And I've forgiven other people. I've forgiven myself, too.
If Jen needed to regain her power, why was she being pointed in the direction of me? Was being close to one's mother regarded as pathology? Had mom-bashing found its home in the current psychoanalytic rhetoric?