Got this off a bargain shelf, and it has been. It may not be for everyone; few films are. Reading the reviews will tell you a lot more about the cross section of America than it will about the film. When you go on a date, watch your date's reaction to decode what you might be adding to your gene pool. Choices and sacrifices. Ask them what the film is about. If they say a gay guy with a crazy mom, move on. If they say it is a longitudinal study of family dynamics and culture over the last half of the 20th century through one person's lenses, agree to another date.